Whether or not size really matters is a question posed by many both as a joke and with earnest concern. As a woman who enjoys talking about sex, I happily address the issues surrounding penis size. I will try to maintain my gendered perspective, while also examining how penis size affects men themselves. For starters, let us examine the old saying: “size doesn’t matter, it’s the motion in the ocean.” What this is stating is, even if a man’s penis is small, it won’t matter if he knows how to use it well. I’ll buy it. Basically, it assumes that small-dicked men have a greater margin for error when it comes to sex. A larger penis can do the job with the old in-and-out, whereas smaller men may have to possess some skill. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing at all! Who said there was anything wrong with being skilled?

Arguably, smaller men have the opportunity to learn a great deal more about their partner’s desires than larger men because smaller men are forced to find the positions that maximize their diminutive dong. Small men can really mix it up without being afraid of hurting their partner, unlike larger guys.

Try putting a pillow or two under your partner’s hips and have them bring their knees up close to their chest. This offers the deep penetration that doggy style offers, but in missionary position. Try doggy style with the petite-penised fellow standing and the receiving partner on his or her knees on the bed (or table top depending on height). This allows for more control.

Plus, it wouldn’t hurt mentioning, that more men and women would probably prefer to be penetrated anally by a medium to smaller-dicked person, at least for their first few times.

This brings me to my next point. Is there ever too-big a dick? Some say yes, some say no. And how do these size discourses affect both large men and small men? It reminds me of an article I read that mentioned how large penises can perpetuate myths of a lack of intelligence. Instead of a dumb blonde, it’s a dumb-donged.

What I mentioned earlier about big guys being able to get away with doing very little would certainly perpetuate this idea, while also asserting that the smaller guy has to be crafty and figure out ways to utilize his less prominent feature.

I want to add on to this and ensure that I do not marginalize the hugely hung men out there. Big guys don’t get discouraged! Just tread a little carefully and make sure your partner is ready for you to go deeper or harder. Also, a little lube goes a long way, and could be the difference between a painful interaction and a pleasurable one.

Size matters. It encourages people to explore their sexuality and ensure that no one is settling for boring sex. What you lack in size, make up for with ingenuity. And when size is covered, remember that you’ve got the advantage, but also be mindful that the encounter does not end up being too fulfilling, if you catch my drift.